|Quote - Velveteen
An excerpt from a
1920's story for children by Margery Williams:-
"What is 'real'?" asked the rabbit one day, "Does it mean having
things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
" 'Real' isn't how
you are made" said the skin horse. "It's a thing that
happens to you. When a person loves you for a long time, not just to
play with, but really loves you, then you become real."
hurt?" asked the rabbit.
said the skin horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are
real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen
all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by
"It doesn't happen
all at once," said the skin horse. "You become. It takes a
long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break
easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept.
Generally, by the time you are real, most of your hair has been loved
off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very
shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are
real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
Velveteen Rabbit © 1922 Margery Williams
When you have cancer, you can feel as
though you have bits which are ugly or misshapen, but as long as you have
the love of those close to you - partner, family and friends you will
always shine through.